JAN SPILLER'S DIARY

Jan Spiller

A VALENTINE'S DAY MESSAGE

by Jan Spiller

As a child, I grew up in a rural/suburban area where we had, among other wild creatures:  black widow spiders, snakes and tarantula spiders.

One afternoon I was walking down the driveway and noticed a huge, very hairy tarantula crawling down the driveway beside me. Startled, I stopped and watched it.

Suddenly, I noticed a beautiful, large flying insect with an eight-inch wingspread approaching. It was the most unusual and magnificent flying insect I had ever seen:  large auburn wings, willowy, graceful, with sleek lines.

As I watched, the beautiful flying insect landed beside the tarantula, injected it with a fluid and the tarantula became paralyzed. The flying creature wrapped the tarantula in a web and flew off with it between its legs.

I learned later that the magnificent insect was a “tarantula fly” and it’s greatest attraction is to the tarantula. In all of nature, no creature is drawn to ravishing the tarantula - it’s so hairy and unappetizing - EXCEPT for the beautiful tarantula fly who finds only the tarantula to be its most tempting delight.

Watching nature is a constant source of new insight. That incident showed me the inevitable call of attraction as well as the way that the laws of nature are in a sacred state of checks and balances. While the dramatic dance in the insect world is often one involving physical food -- rather than emotional nurturing -- in the human kingdom the natural magnetism of intrinsic enchantment still operates.

The lesson I drew from that incident was something about the laws of attraction:  elements that go beyond physical beauty and expected social models draw one thing to another. The mate that for one person is totally unattractive, for another may bring them their greatest satisfaction and joy:  there’s someone for everyone.